Weddings, Baptisms & Funerals

It is our privilege to play a part in the important events, both happy and sad, of peoples’ lives.  We offer sensitive support and an appropriate service whether you are celebrating the baptism of your baby, your marriage or are mourning the loss of a loved one.

Browse the links and pages below to find out more:


Baptism, sometimes called ‘Christening’, whether of a baby or an adult, is a celebration of God’s love for us in Jesus, a mark of belonging to God’s people and a call to follow Jesus.

We are delighted that you want to have your child christened as a sign you want to bring them up in the Christian faith, to grow up knowing God’s love in Jesus for themselves and to follow him throughout their lives. We will do all we can to encourage this.

We generally conduct Baptisms i our main 10.30am Sunday services, although they can be arranged after the Sunday service at 12.15pm in exceptional circumstances

What to do next?
Contact the vicar Revd Kevin Barnard:
01959 563127


We do all we can to make a wedding service the very special day which all couples wish for.
If you would like to consider a wedding at St Mary’s, we would be pleased to talk things through with you on the phone, by email, or in person.


A funeral is the opportunity for friends and family to express their grief and to give thanks for the life of someone they love. Our vicar is available to lead funerals and the church itself can be the setting for a Church of England funeral or memorial service for those who lived or died in the parish. Anyone who lives in the Parish of Westerham (or who was on the church electoral roll or whose burial has already been agreed by faculty) is entitled to have their funeral or thanksgiving service in St Mary’s.

If you’ve just been bereaved, your first point of contact will normally be a local Funeral Director. If you’d like us to be involved in the funeral, or you’d like to hold the funeral in church, please ask the Funeral Director to contact us before the date is fixed so we can make sure that someone is available.

We are able to offer the following at St Mary’s:
– funeral in church and burial in the churchyard
– funeral in church. This can be followed by a ‘lychgate committal’ which may be helpful for families wishing to go straight on to any ‘wake’, or with a separate short committal service at the crematorium.
– memorial or thanksgiving service in church (we do not usually arrange for this to take place on the same day as a cremation)
– interment of ashes in the churchyard. Please contact us directly through the Parish Office to discuss the interment of ashes or before arranging for a headstone to be put in place.
– a funeral service at the crematorium is also possible.

Once the funeral is booked, the vicar will arrange to come and meet the next of kin to talk about the arrangements and make sure that the service is a fitting tribute to the deceased.

The funeral is a time to acknowledge your sense of grief and sorrow, but within us we may continue to carry that sense of grief and sorrow caused by the love we had for the person who died. If you wish you can meet with our vicar again, or we can arrange for a visit from a member of our Pastoral Care Team.

We also hold a special annual’Light up a Life’ service in conjunction with the Hospice in the Weald for those who have been bereaved in recent years and who would like a public opportunity to remember their loved ones. Please contact our Parish Office for details.

To read more about funerals in general, visit the Church of England website

Show Buttons
Hide Buttons